6 keys to making a long distance relationship work

Long distance relationships can be difficult and often don’t work out. However, sometimes they do. Usually this happens after you have spent a few nights or days together totally immersed in each other and a lasting connection has been established. It is much more than just a surface-level attraction.

It’s not uncommon these days to hear a story where people somehow ended up together, despite being on the other side of the country (or the world).

So how did they do it? How do they make it work? I will happily share.

1. You have to accept that long distance relationships are difficult. Plain and simple. There is no real way around it. There is an obvious distance between you, emotions and jealousy can get in your way, and you will wonder what you are doing. Then there is all the physical frustration as well. And you can make it work. See more about some things you can do to have a real shot at success.

2. Make a commitment. (This one requires guts.) But you’ll never know if it’s going to work unless you actually do. Once you’ve accepted that it will be difficult, you can mentally prepare for it and then work from there. Once you are both “in”, he will take it more seriously.

3. Have understanding. (Sometimes it is not spoken. Sometimes it is simply understood). If you want to avoid unnecessary jealousy, worry, and frustration, accept how it will be. Are we seeing other people or are we not seeing other people? Are we open for appointments? Are we trying to make this work? Or just seeing where it goes? Whatever it is, you better be on the same page.

4. Communicate frequently. It doesn’t matter if you have an agreed time or a weekly or monthly speaking time. (that would be very helpful) Or a mental plan of when and how often you speak, all that matters is that you speak. And use other ways to keep it interesting. Email, text, phone, skype, chat, video (see the bottom of this post for a giveaway).

5. Save your money. Yeah I know, you’re like “What?” But yes, this is important. Whether it’s long-distance charges (avoid it with free Skype, obviously), gas money, bus tickets, car rental fees, or trips and excursions, you don’t want anything like money to bog you down when approaching the person who loves. upon. And you don’t want debt to stop you from making this great connection last. They probably want to be together in person as well, that can mean flights, hotels, etc. Also, the fun random excursions will make your experiences really exciting.

6. Keep the fire going! A large part of the work of love and relationships has to do with the attraction between you. If you want it to be successful, you have to make sure it has its fair share of HOT! With so many fish in the sea and other people closer to you than your partner, you have to keep them in mind! And vice versa! Send cards, make videos, congratulate them, tell them what you like / love about them, do your thing, talk dirty, show off body parts and I’ll let you come up with the rest. (I have something that helps with this BIG WAY here).

Sound like a lot of work? It is not! You are doing these things anyway in a regular dating relationship! And if you really want it to work, you will make it work!

My friend is in London, UK. He met a girl when he was here in Toronto and they still keep in touch. They are in contact often. They talk about life, travel, each other’s experiences, they still ask questions, chat and make videos. (Great tip at the end of this post, check it out!) He’s coming to London to visit in a few weeks!

I have another friend who puts someone online, started tweeting, then chatting on Facebook, then using Skype, and then falling in love. He went to Australia and met her where she lived. I stayed with her for 3 weeks, had a great time with her and went back to Toronto. They continued to Skype and speak regularly. Now several months later and she is here in Toronto! She goes to school here and they live together, very much in love.

They are very possible people! Do not give up!

Here’s a little video I made around Valentine’s Day to share an idea, which totally applies here, so I have to share it! It would work the same way for a long distance relationship! Totally relevant! Use it!

Why does this idea work so well? Much is transferred through video. Emotions, tones, feelings, vibrations and body language, not just words! This is why the internet is obviously heading towards all video! Your mind actually reads much more than just the words you are saying!

Bottom line, (I haven’t started a prayer like that since college) if you’re committed to it and really try hard to make it work, magical things can happen. And the universe will help you too! You are not alone in this.

It sucks a bit, I know. But if you really want it to work, there’s more to it than meets the eye.

Greetings and good luck! Here is that link again to one of the best and greatest support tools that I have created.