Men and commitment – You told him you loved him – Now what?

You’ve been dating the man long enough to know that you like him. Really,
I really like Diablo, you might even love it.

So you told him.

If he responded by taking you in his arms and using his
undying passion and fidelity, congratulations.

But if his face began to tremble, and he murmured something
like, “Hey, I thought we were taking things slow,” or worse, “I love
but I’m not in love with you”, you have a situation in your
hands.

do not fear Not everything is lost.

Keep calm. No, I repeat, do not burst into tears (I am
begging you here).

Look him in the eye. She manages a laugh and say, “Wow. How embarrassing.”

He’ll probably say something like, “Hey, no problem. It’s just that
my career as a skier just took off and I…”

This is where you interrupt.

You say, “No. Forget I said it.”

Change the topic. Stay kind. Smile as naturally as you
can without killing you.

If you’re in the middle of the night, it’s probably not a good idea.
call it a night (unless he’s scared and does it himself; in
in which case, kiss him on the cheek and walk out gracefully).

Again, change the subject at all costs. Talk about the weather, yeah
you have to. Talk about the movie you saw with him or someone else.
Talk about the book you just read. Ask him if he is happy with his
cheesecake.

The key is to steer the conversation in a new direction. once you
do that, you can let him take over.

WHAT YOU ABSOLUTELY SHOULD NOT DO:

Do not allow yourself to drink too much. don’t let yourself
ask him about your relationship. Don’t ask: “Remember all the
we had fun the night we went to the beach, and you said…” or “How
Can you tell you want to move slow? I’m the best thing ever
happened to you and you’re going to find out”, or “You love me but
aren’t you in love with me? And what does that mean?”

Let it go. Your mind may be full of question marks, but you
you should ignore them. It may kill you, but you must.

At the end of the night, tell him you had a great time. Smile. Do not ask
to call you Don’t ask him when you’ll see him again. give him
that friendly kiss on the cheek. Smile. Thank you for a fun night.
Turn your back and walk away.

NOW IS THE TIME FOR WHITE KNUCKLES

Will you call back? should you call him?

I don’t know the answer to the first question, but I do know the answer to
the second. Do not call him under any circumstances.
You can’t convince anyone that they like you, much less that they love you.

But you can give him a chance to miss you if you don’t call. When you
you let out your feelings for him, you gave him a lot to think about.
Give him a chance to think about it.

Don’t call him.

If he calls you, you must determine if you are willing to spend
time with someone who is undecided about their relationship.
If you decide to do it, it is not (it is not) available every
time he asks you out.

Either he will realize how much you mean to him, or he will realize
don’t miss you so much at all.

Either way, you win. If he loves you, great. But if you don’t, that’s
well, also why would you want to waste any more time with a guy who is
is not able to give you the love you deserve?