Save your marriage by taking action now
Divorce has reached the epidemic stage. Did you know that more than a million marriages end in the United States? Multiply that by 10 or 20 and think about the havoc these broken homes are leaving financially and the children of these couples who have decided their marriage is no longer worth saving. Imagine the difference if only half of these marriages could be saved? And imagine the difference in your own life if one of those saved marriages was yours.
Is your marriage in trouble? If so, do you think it is possible that your marriage will be saved? No one knows for sure, but don’t give up without doing everything you can to save him before you give up and join the millions who head for the divorce course each year.
Here are four steps you can take that will go a long way toward saving your marriage, and you can start working on them today.
1. Stop trying to blame yourself.
If you are honest, you will have to admit that there is a lot of guilt in your troubled marriage. Trying to blame one person or another won’t help anything, even if you blame yourself. What will help is to start planning how to avoid “blame game” situations in the future.
2. Be open to change and take responsibility for putting that change into action.
Even if your spouse claims not to be interested in continuing the relationship, go ahead and institute changes in your own life that can show you that the marriage is worth saving after all.
Examples of such a change could be recognizing behaviors in your own life that irritate your spouse and deciding to change those behaviors. If your spouse engages in behaviors that make you angry, decide that you can and will learn to ignore and perhaps even eventually accept those behaviors in the same way that you might accept the same behavior in a casual acquaintance without comment.
As situations arise that you recognize as causes of conflict, continue to make changes that help you avoid the situations in the first place, or replace the situations with things that are acceptable to both of you.
3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Find an expert in dealing with troubled marriages. If the expert has helped others, they can help you too. Too often, we are ashamed to admit the mess we have caused in our marriage or we assume that our particular problems are insurmountable. A good marriage counselor has seen far worse cases than yours and has been successful in helping even more troubled marriages than yours.
Four. Don’t wait to act.
The longer you wait to do something about your troubled marriage, the more trouble will become, so don’t wait. Problems generally don’t go away on their own, as can be seen by the million divorces each year in the United States, alone.
Can your troubled marriage be saved? Most can do so if at least one of the parties involved cares enough to act. Will you be the one in your case?