Warning signs! Find out if you are in a relationship with a possessive man
Possessive men are jealous and controlling very early in the relationship. This is a great sign that most girls miss or miss. Unlike the abusive man who might start to show his true colors around two to four months after the relationship, possessive men show their jealousy in the first few weeks. Follow your instincts because the first time a possessive boyfriend shows his true colors, your belly will flutter and you will think, what is wrong with this guy? If you ever think “what’s wrong with this guy,” your instincts will tell you that this guy has a problem and it’s not healthy to be around. Since we still don’t know the possessive boyfriend well, we stay in the relationship because we feel like we will discover his true colors later on. The sooner you listen to your instincts and leave the relationship, the faster you can find a decent man and you will not regret wasting so much time with possessive men.
The signs of a possessive boyfriend are when you go out with friends; He can’t bear you talking to anyone but him. The possessive boyfriend will constantly call you to find out where you are and what you have been up to. The possessive boyfriend will want to spend time with you from the first day he meets you. Too long, he never comes home or stops calling and you’ve only known him for a week. Everything you want to do, he will also want to do. Healthy relationships start gradually. You only start doing things every day when you get serious, which is usually four to six months later. Possessive men can also try to tell you how to dress. This is because they are paranoid about other men looking at you and asking you out on a date. In the possessive mind of boyfriends, he is so insecure and convinced that your friends, family and other men will keep you away from him. He will never see how you are only interested in him. Possessive men do not realize that it is their possessive nature that drives women away.
Possessive men will throw tantrums when you don’t spend 100 percent of your time with them. If you want to go out with just girls (it’s healthy to want to have a night out with just friends or some time to yourself), the possessive boyfriend will get angry and say things that will make you cancel your plans. The worst thing you can do is give in to possessive men. That is exactly what they want. They realize that they have control over you. Eventually, the tantrums could get worse; they will never stop as it is always their way. You will find that the possessive boyfriend has isolated you from your friends and family and you no longer feel free to do whatever you want or make decisions without their approval.
Possessive men may eventually turn to physical, verbal, financial, or mental abuse to keep you under their control. The longer you stay in this poisonous relationship, the more difficult it will be for you to leave. There is no excuse for possessive behavior. Possessive men act possessively because they feel insecure and powerless. They need constant attention because they don’t feel in control if you are out of their sight or not giving them your time directly. Possessive men easily become paranoid; even wanting to sit and read the newspaper on their own makes them feel out of control. You may have to sit in the same room as you all the time. Possessive men misunderstand the situation when you say that you would like to have some free time alone or with a friend. Instead of understanding that we all need our own space, they interpret it as that you don’t like them or want to leave them. You can’t fix this. The possessive boyfriend has to learn to deal with his own insecurities