How to stop being a “doormat” in a toxic relationship
You put your prince. He is so handsome, lovable and perfect. When both decided to live together, the fairy tale begins to fade. Your crush is over and you start to realize the truth about Mr. Great.
I know this self-discovery can be very sad and disturbing. You realized that it is no longer the same. What’s more, he is abusing you! One day Mr. Great is back, another day he’s a monster. He keeps exploiting you and humiliating you in every possible way. When you want to confront him with the truth, he tells you that you are hypersensitive. That makes you even more confused and lost.
Do you know why being a doormat makes you a slave and takes your life? Your own traumatic memories bring you negative emotions like inadequacy, inferiority, stupidity. You feel unattractive and unworthy.
Have you ever heard that it is possible to break out of this mental prison once and for all? It will do this by removing negative memories from the past. For you to discover your true authentic self. The natural high self-confidence is back.
What you endure, stays in your mind. Bad memories hypnotized you. Your perception has been distorted and influenced how you see yourself, others and your reality. You accepted this as truth and became this person from your “unhappy dream world.”
Whenever you want to live in the present moment and be “different”, it turns out that you can’t. You relived your living nightmare again.
How does all this make you feel? I’m sure you feel small, hopeless and enslaved. You are afraid to stop this nightmare, it makes you more depressed and condemns you to live your life. It destroys your self-esteem more and more.
There is a way out of this trap. You can remove painful memories from your mind. These traumatic life experiences remain within your subconscious mind. When you do this, you will reveal the truth about who you are. In other words, you will stop being a doormat. It was just a lie!
If you keep asking your heart who you are, you will find an interesting answer. Inevitable desires may appear in your mind. Those wishes are a set of positive feelings. You may want to feel confident, relaxed, self-sufficient, and independent. You may want to be peaceful and happy. So it is not a problem to become an individual who can make healthy decisions about relationships with ease.
Those positive emotions are part of your true authentic self. The self, you always wanted to be, but negative life experience blurred the truth and made you forget who you are.