Taking your first date to a friend’s party: good or bad idea?
You are about to go on a date with a person and you have been invited to a friend’s party at the same time. Should you take your new date to the party? It seems like the obvious answer, but here are several reasons why you might want to reconsider taking your date to any function hosted by a friend.
you don’t know the person
Even if you’ve spoken to your date in person or on the phone or even exchanged hundreds of emails, you have no idea who this person is. The first date should be spent making sure the two of you are compatible and that’s hard to do with a group of friends. What if the person turns out to be a complete psycho and now you invited them to your friend’s house? Instead, take your date out to a coffee shop and save the parties for later dates when you’re a little more familiar with the person and her personality.
under the spotlight
If you take your first date to a party full of friends, your date might feel like they’re being scrutinized at all times, and they’d be right to a degree, wouldn’t they? Your friends will always look out for your best interests, and good friends will be quick to tell you if they don’t like your new date. This could cause the person to act in false or unnatural ways in an effort to appease your friends. In any case, that kind of environment won’t allow you to get to know anyone intimately. It’s best to go to a restaurant or even a quiet park where you can meet in private.
What if you don’t like the person?
A very good reason not to take your first date to a friend’s party is because you might not like your date. When you’re in a restaurant or cafe and you don’t like the address of the date, you can excuse yourself at any time. Will you have the gut strength to kick your date out of your friend’s party the moment things go south? Or are you going to suck it up and continue to hang out with the person, ruining your and your date’s good time? Of course, you never expect a date to go sour, but it can happen. Take your date somewhere else and make sure you have an exit strategy planned in case your date turns out to be a bust.
A friend’s party sounds like a great time and a perfect place to take someone you’re trying to get to know better, but a first date is tricky. Find somewhere a little more private and personal and you’ll have a much better time.