The unresponsive partner: is it him? "Entrepreneur" You are far?
One topic that I would like to address today is an area where I have many scenarios where some clients want to know if they should call, communicate or communicate in some way with this person in their life that they have not heard from in a while. . Or whether to wait. At the same time they add: “… but it feels like I’m walking away. “AND, “What does that mean?”
That’s when I ask, “What does it mean to you or what are you trying to point out if you are pushing someone away?” And they remain silent.
Sometimes the obvious is right in front of you and you just don’t see it.
There are times when some women, and oh, men too, of course, want someone so much that they go blind to the obvious. They think that the harder they try, the more they will achieve their goal; your partner of choice.
But for a healthy relationship to occur, we need two people involved to make it work. It is not correct to make up a lot of excuses for the partner who is not communicating with you. This is called self-deception. What you want to believe It is that he is too busy or tied up, whatever excuse you give him, why they are not approaching and do not want to meet with you. Nature is a beautiful thing that, for the most part, we can trust. That is, if we want something, we all normally go for the scope. That includes that this supposed boyfriend or girlfriend would do the same to you, if he wanted to.
If you feel like he’s pushing you away, pay attention to the message. He is trying to tell you that he is not interested. That is a difficult truth to accept, but it is what will finally set you free so that you can move on and find a loving partner worthy of your love.
Heard a lot from some customers with this issue – how they keep ‘trying to make it work’ regardless. Calling, texting, emailing, leaving messages as if they’re afraid that partner will forget about their existence if they don’t. First of all, and what I want to say about it is: Is your self-esteem so low that you think someone might forget about you? Especially the one you think is your current love? Don’t we remember all the people we met, at least that impressed us even after 20-30 years?
And wouldn’t it be annoying for the person who is pushing you away to have to constantly keep doing it? And it gets better, why would you place yourself In a situation where you allow him to walk away Do you see the problem here?
If this is you, I know how difficult it is for you and your emotions right now because you love this person, or at least you think you love him or her. But try to befriend yourself enough and hug your heart. Reprogram your heart and mind to understand this: if he had the same feelings for you, he would be attracting, not rejecting. Everything in life and the cosmos is magnetic. We attract or repel. The more you chase, the more it keeps running.
If you want to feel validated by him, allow him to reach out to you. It does two things: it confirms that it wants to be with you, and it eradicates your insecurity. The persistent pursuer can often become very insecure because he or she doesn’t really know if their target is interested in them or not or is simply being “polite” by picking up the phone when calling. You may experience a quick fix in the moments when you have your partner on the phone for a minute or two (after you’ve called them back for the right moment), but then you may revert to even deeper insecurity afterward.
This deepens the negative cycle for each time.
The more you feel like your partner is slipping, the more control you will put into trying to get back what you thought you once had. You may not see or recognize the push you are making beyond that person’s free will. Everything you’ll see is that person trying to push you go. We must learn to respect other people’s space.
If you are trying to break out of this type of negative pattern, just take a step back. You will have to be strong to break those ties and leave your place of fear. As long as fear is reigning, he’s ruling that relationship and it’s no wonder he’s running. For now. Who wants to be controlled? If you dare to let it go, and move to the opposite polarity of that magnet, which is trust: what can happen? When you change, they change. Your magnet is now out of yours and the magic can begin to take place. It is very possible that he will turn around and come your way. That is: if your relationship is meant to be.
The moral of the story here is that you want give your love – Do not force it.
You want to receive love, not demand it.
If you feel like he or she is pushing you away: You have work to do. I know you can do it. It takes some faith to walk away, but once you do, it will release a lot of energy. See your love, give it to those who are open and worthy of it. The love you have is valuable. Is when you radiate that love, people will naturally come to you and want to claim it as their own. At all times remember and affirm to yourself that you are a beautiful and loving being, and love will always surround you.