Wait! Don’t tell him you love him, say this instead!
Women love connection and part of feeling connected to a man is knowing how a lot feeling that he carries in his heart for you. We are delighted to hear a man say things like, “I adore you with all my heart”. Gold “I can’t tell you how much I love you today.”
The deep and strong feelings of love in his heart for us make us feel safe, comforted and protected from the ills of society. His love is like a padded barrier that keeps us tight and makes us brave to go out and conquer the world.
Men also have great ambitions to conquer the world. And our love also helps that. But in a different way. Look, we love hearing about the depth and degree of love in a man’s heart for us. He likes to hear about how his love has added to our lives in big and small ways.
Men are all about status. It has been scientifically proven that men choose their words and communication styles based on their status. He could have status at work, with friends, in his family, and in his relationship with you.
When you can tell a man that you love him because ______ (complement him with something he’s done to improve your life and overall happiness) he feels like he has status in your eyes. He feels that the person he values most in his life, he values above anyone else. That makes him feel powerful and more than confident.
You need to feel the state of the relationship and that comes from feeling that your efforts matter and that you have the ability to provide you with a better life. He wants to know that the beautiful woman in his life feels that he is an honorable, capable, and studly man. He needs to feel like he’s your emotional safety net, your ticket to fun, your master of sex, your favorite dishwasher and handyman…
So instead of saying you love him, say: “You are amazing. I really appreciate you.” The depth of his love for you will be written all over his youthful smile and glassy, moon-filled eyes.
If you can build a man’s self-esteem by showing him how much he is worth loving, you will be the necessary, key ingredient to his manhood. That’s not something you’ll just throw out the door when some other pretty young thing smiles your way.
Sending you love
Cristina Marchante