Why no contact can save your relationship

You’ll hear a lot about no contact after a breakup if you’ve done your research online. The truth is, no contact can be a great way to save your relationship from further chaos and ultimately win your guy back if you want to.

Going to NC, or no contact, usually consists of a few variations.

1. You just turn off your phone and email when it comes to your ex, and you refuse to talk to them or respond to them.
2. You limit contact with them to something like “hello” and “how are you”, but don’t go beyond that and don’t talk about your relationship at all.

Number 2 is usually better as it leaves the door open for future contact with your ex. However, it can lead to trouble if you don’t avoid breaking up as a topic of conversation with him.

However, no contact can also be very beneficial for both you and your ex. It won’t drive him away. Instead, if there really is hope for your relationship, it will make you think about your decision.

Don’t let yourself worry about whether or not your ex will forget you, they won’t. In fact, you should AVOID that kind of thinking at all costs. Actually, your ex will never forget you if he really cares about you. If he doesn’t, you should move on anyway.

No contact really allows you to move on and heal, and that’s what you should do if you’re trying to get your ex back.

When you have this period of not talking to your ex for a while, you have the opportunity to let go of emotional wounds. The reason for depression after a breakup is that you keep thinking about your ex for a while; just force yourself not to.

However, it’s harder to force yourself not to think about something than to distract yourself, so find ways to do that for the first few weeks. Try your favorite games and hobbies, the things you enjoy the most. In the next two weeks, you should be looking for more in-depth activities, things that really force you to focus.

Now is your chance to finish that project you’ve been neglecting at work. It’s a chance to catch up on studying or reading, anything you’ve been putting off that you really want to get right now.

Having no contact for a while, usually around 30 days, will allow you to get your life back. Then at that point you can examine your current state and if you really want to recover it yet.

If you do, you’ll be in a better frame of mind because you’ll be thinking rationally instead of emotionally. Instead of being thrown into despair and chaos from the breakup, you’ll see things in a new light.

It will be much easier to make the decisions you need to make: whether you really want it back, and then how you’re going to go about getting it back when you’re ready to do so.