Dating Tips For Boomer Women – Why No Weekend Dates? Catch Up on the Telltale Signs

Have you ever dated a guy that you had a lot of fun with and saw on a weekly basis, but for some reason, never on the weekends?

What’s up with that?

I put this guy in a singles dance. Very attractive, a bit macho even. Sort of a bad boy still at 40. You know the kind of guy. We locked eyes with him as he walked to the ladies’ room. As he left, he struck up a conversation. Hmm. Very interesting as I remember.

He invited me to dance. Great dancer. Wow a man who seems self-assured. We danced a couple of times. She walked over to her table and talked for a while. He asked for my number and then he leaned in to kiss me on the cheek. Who is this boy?

Yeah, he called in a couple of days and invited me to dinner. She arrived on Friday night and we had our date. A fun guy, he was intrigued, curious, captivated by his good looks, charm and European accent.

After that night, he called me and we went out several more times. When I was with him, I felt more seductive than ever in my entire life. We definitely had that steamy chemistry that women always talk about, drool over.

However, at the same time, I began to feel confused. After our first date, we never saw each other again on a weekend night. Monday, Tuesday, Thursday – sure. Maybe even on a Sunday afternoon. But never another Friday or Saturday night. What could this be about? I had no idea.

I started asking around. Does anyone have an explanation for this strange behaviour? No, not one. Not a single girlfriend could figure it out. So one night I decided to ask him. “Hey Romeo,” I said (okay, not his real name, but he was the most romantic man I’ve ever dated) “how come we never get together on weekend nights?”

I know this will surprise you, but he actually answered me. He said, “I have to see my girlfriend sometime.” Like the needle being pulled through an old vinyl record making a deep scratch: that’s how that response registered in me. I said, “What? What did you say?” Romeo replied nonchalantly, “I’ve had a girlfriend for two years. I see other women, but not on weekends.”

If you hadn’t heard this directly from the horse’s mouth, would you have believed it? She said that with a straight face.

That was the end of Romeo. But this episode provided an eye-opening look at “Men’s World” and how some men, not all men by any means, think. If you’re dating a guy who doesn’t have time for you on the weekends, TRUST ME, something isn’t right. Take this advice from my personal experience and as a dating coach. Be brave and ask him about it to see what kind of answer he gives you.

You can change the subject, avoid the topic, give a standard answer, or make something up. Regardless of the words that come out of his mouth, if he feels uncomfortable giving the answer, you know something is not right. Watch body language and especially eye contact. Did he stare at you when he answered? Spun around? You know the signs of a liar, so pay attention to the details of his response.

If you’re in casual dating mode and don’t mind sharing the guy, then no problem. But if you’re hoping to move toward a long-term relationship, my advice is that Mr. No Weekends is probably not his man.