How to feel sexy when sex is the last thing on your mind and why older women should keep trying
Are there beautiful ‘sexy’ older women? Feeling like we are beautiful while we are sexy older women is hard too! Sometimes everything seems to close, doesn’t it? There is a certain awkwardness that sets in and we just don’t feel like embracing sexuality in our daily lives. However, it is part of us, ignore it or not.
How to feel sexy when things feel flat. It’s an overwhelming topic when you’re comfortable with who you “think” you are fifty, sixty, or even seventy. Why bother thinking sometimes, right? In recent years, we often lose touch with that side of ourselves. Wrinkles, excess weight and cellulite that have settled, the kids are long gone and life just changes. Our personalities are often created by things external to us and we accept them because they are pleasant, but also perhaps because they feel safe and the next online experience.
Many women say that at age fifty and over, they feel a certain confidence in themselves and consider themselves free … finally. I think it’s true, but I also think that sexuality is on the back burner. It just feels easier and maybe more secure in some way.
If you pay too much attention to the media, your confidences often go flat, and if you’re like me at all, you might feel like a figurine on the shelf, gathering dust, as the world passes by. Television especially tells us that if we are not in our twenties, we are beyond the age of desirability. We are steeped in the concept that men “only” look at young women and so are men.
There is no denying that men are visual, but I don’t think “everyone” is stupid. My God, I hope not!
We are sexual ‘beings’ and our bodies are designed to feel pleasure, it is what we are and to deny that part, is to deny a part of our own identity, closing it and believing what the media tells us.
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So let’s get sexy (again) !!
How is the question in question.
Personally, I think it is a state of mind, yes, a simple way of thinking. Here are some ideas:
1) Learn to flirt again! I’m not ready to be put on the shelf! No way! I accept the idea of feeling sexy while speaking in a somewhat flirtatious way. Do you remember flirting? Don’t worry, I’m not suggesting you start reaching out to your friends’ husbands, don’t get it wrong. I’m suggesting that flirting with the idea of feeling sexual and being ‘playful’ and ‘girly’ can be fun and not all of that out of the box. Create that ‘attitude’ and it will become you.
2) Consider changing your hair. That’s a great way to reinvent yourself and overcome boredom. Maybe a little more so that the breeze can touch the ends of your locks, reminding you that the wind is as free as possible.
3) Rethink your wardrobe and have fun with Sears!
4) Exercise, diet and do it for YOU!
5) Get your toes done, even if only every six months.
6) Rethink your makeup. Do you still wear it the same way you did in high school? It sounds funny but you know that many are.
7) Watch your walk … connect with that ‘graceful’ side and rethink your stride.
8) Rethink your step in life … YOU are important and your sexuality is a genuine part of who you are as a woman. Be the rainbow you long to know.
Feeling sexy like an older woman is right there for you … It’s an attitude.