Teaching Independence: Building Confidence and Self-Reliance in Your Child

Is so easy. We all do it from time to time. We love them
much. We just want to protect our children from anything.
that could harm them. So we reach out our arm and gather
they in. We do their homework for them so they can enjoy some
more gaming moments. But these choices have consequences.
When you protect your children or do what they can do for
themselves their children become too dependent. Worse,
they do not challenge themselves or develop self-confidence.

Learning self-sufficiency and independence comes early. But
It doesn’t happen without your help. you need to support your
children teaching them to be independent. In this article
you will learn to promote the independence of your children;
how and when to let them do things on their own; to do
when they need help; and what to do when things go wrong.

let’s meet Julia

Julio is six years old. She is shy and indecisive and not
have close friends. Julie’s teacher, Mrs. Pound Sterling,
She often saves Julie Company at school and gives her more
aid. Mrs. Sterling doesn’t care. Julie is so calm and
well educated girl

Then, at a parent-teacher conference, Mrs. Sterling mentions
Julie’s behavior with her parents. She wasn’t always like this
they say. Julie was a wild baby and she got into everything. A
The Time, Julie’s parents were concerned for her safety SO
they kept julie in her playpen, they put gates all over the
house and even put him on a leash sometimes. For her safety,
they added.

Eventually, Julie got over her wanderlust and became a
educated girl. But maybe we overdid it, let’s say Julie’s
fathers. Now she is not interested in doing anything on her
own self. She just waits for us to advise her.

Mrs. Sterling suggests that they give Julie a light.
task, something she could easily accomplish. maybe that
help Julie feel like she is in charge and that she already has
permission to do a good job on your own. july’s parents
to accept.

In a few weeks, Mrs. Sterling realizes that Julie is looking for
less help and spending longer periods with the other
kids. Then one day, in a burst of pride, Julie tells Mrs.
Sterling the right way to empty a dishwasher and store it
dishes. Mrs. Sterling thanks Julie for the lesson and
She smiles as Julie runs off to play with her new friends.

Now let’s take a look at how you can teach your children
Independence, self-sacrifice and joy of trust.

Cheer up

Parents need to keep their children in their natural
quest for independence. A great way to do this is with
tasks. Most children are in a hurry to grow up; Helping
Surrounding the house teaches them responsibility and shows
they can make a difference through their actions.

But be careful. Your child can sense if you are worried
about his abilities. Let them know that it is of great help to
Ask them to get involved and give them jobs they can do.
If you have concerns about its safety or performance
give them another job.

tolerance

Children who are allowed to do things on their own develop
self-sufficiency At first, leave your child alone for small
periods periods. They will learn that they are safe and that they can do things
without you in the same room. Later, friendships teach them
to deal with different situations. chores, hobbies and
homework also develops independence. Here are some methods to
Help your children succeed on their own.

o Model self-reliance in your own behavior.

o Show them step by step how to make a project.

o make sure they know the target so they go right
address.

o Make the project fun! Time it. Do it backwards. Dancing.
Make a game out of it.

o Set deadlines for a project, but let your children
complete it your way.

o Let them do the work in parts so they are successful every time
they work on it.

or that they fail. Let your children try things their way and
learn from failure.

o When they forget to do a task, show them the
consequences, but don’t do the work for them.

Support for
Know when to step in and help your child with a project
it can be challenging. Here are some guidelines, but keep in mind
how their children solve problems and support them
properly.

o Intervene to support their children when their focus is
unsafe, unhealthy or disruptive.

o In general, be available to help, but encourage
them to work through any issues they encounter on their own.

or if you intervene, emphasize what is working and then
suggest ways to do the job better, or consider doing the job
together.

o If the job is done well enough… leave it alone.
Perfection is not the goal. Unless the job needs to be
corrected for a very good reason congratulations to your children
in your efforts. And praise them often.

Learn from mistakes
Part of self-reliance means learning from mistakes. Are here
some tips to help your kids keep going when things go
wrong.

o Tell them that everyone makes mistakes.

o Tell them that it is the effort that counts.

o Tell them you love them no matter what.

o Point out what they did well.

o Ask them how they could do it differently.

o Encourage them to do the work using their new approach.

Protecting your children from harm is vital, but it is also
important to allow them to explore, participate in life and
even to fail. This is how they learn self-sufficiency. In the
In the long term, if children are not taught independence, they lack
self-confidence, and that is very difficult to learn after
us.

Encourage your children’s independence. teach them how to do
things on their own and support them as they learn. Maybe
One of the greatest gifts you can teach your children is
Learn from your mistakes and fill your life with
confidence and self-reliance necessary to succeed.