Understanding Men: How To Make Your Boyfriend Happy And Get Your Man Back
Men are complex, aren’t the ladies? They say that we are the ones who confuse, but when you get down to business, men are much more frustrating to try to understand. They hide their emotions and act all “manly” about everything. It is extremely difficult to understand why a man does what he does or what he wants, especially when he will never tell you “this is what I want”. Well ladies, what do men want in a relationship? Let’s delve into a man’s psyche to find out what his hidden desires really are.
1) Wife in the Kitchen, Girlfriend in the Bedroom
One of my male friends once said that a man wanted a wife in the kitchen and a girlfriend in the bedroom.
After getting over the sexism of the comment, I paused for a moment to try to understand what he was saying. Although it may seem like a man just wants a woman to feed him and have sex with him, it goes much deeper than that. Let’s break down that phrase a bit.
What does it mean to want a “kitchen wife”? The first reaction many women would give is that a man wants his wife to cook and clean for him all the time. However, if you dig a little deeper into the phrase, it really means that a man wants a partner. He wants someone who can work with him; someone who is willing to help him, not to do things for him. A man wouldn’t mind a home-cooked meal once in a while, and neither would a woman, but that really has nothing to do with the phrase.
How about the “girlfriend in the bedroom” part of speech? It’s like an old mafia movie I saw once where the main character would say, “I have a girlfriend and a wife, because my girlfriend will do things my wife won’t do!” That does not mean that a woman in a sexual relationship has to do things that she is uncomfortable with, but that a man is only looking for a woman who is open and loving in her relationship.
2) Emotional Commitment
Getting married is a big step, and even if a man is not ready to take that step, he may still want a commitment from his lover. This commitment is not one that is written down on paper or discussed with a religious person present. This kind of commitment is emotional.
A man wants his lover to trust him and love him. He wants her to be faithful to him and he wants him to respect the limits of the relationship that they both agree to.
For some women, making an emotional commitment is actually more difficult than many realize it would be. It’s hard to trust someone totally and completely; much more difficult than signing a paper or speaking in front of a priest.
This, however, is what a man really wants. They want to know that they can trust a woman, and they want to be able to trust them too. Oddly enough, more women have to work on trust issues than men!
3) Make a man happy
What does it take to make a man happy in a relationship?
Contrary to what most women believe, it doesn’t take much. Most men can be happy with much less than what a woman needs to be happy. All they need is compassion, understanding, love and someone to be with.
Can men be frustrating and annoying? Of course! That is the right of every human being. But the men, though they try to hide behind a hard facade, are not as strong as they appear.
Men are very fragile, especially when it comes to their lover. They can be protective and jealous easily, but instead of being insulted by this, it should be something you are proud of. Be glad that your man finds you attractive enough that he is worried about another man trying to steal from you.
Even if you’re not technically married, if you’re living together and you’ve uttered those three all-important words (and by that I mean “let’s be exclusive,” or something), then he thinks you’re his.
Don’t think of it as property, think of it as being loved, wanted and desired by a man who is too fragile to explain exactly how much you mean to him for fear of rejection.
Men don’t want much from a relationship: just unconditional love.